EXCERPT
FROM PRIVATE THOUGHTS (Ch. 4 "How Fantasies Help Us") "Besides being effective
in turning up sexual heat, fantasies also have an amazing ability to help
us cope with the emotional stresses of sex. They offer a way to immediately
reduce the biggest block to sexual pleasure: anxiety. Looking more closely
at how certain fantaies work, we can discover how they soothe our worries
or distract us from concerns that would otherwise get in the way of enjoying
sex. By focusing on the steamy images and stories in our minds, we can
feel less inhibited and more inspired to be sexually open and expressive.
Thus, fantasies often work to increase sexual stimulation while simultaneously
decreasing emotional anxiety. When women consider when and why they turn
to fantasy, they often mention both sexual and emotional issues."
Praise
for Private Thoughts:
"At last, a wonderful
and important book that reveals the full power of women's sexual imagination--to
play, to excite, to haunt, to heal. I will recommend it widely."
--Gina
Ogden, Ph.D.,
author of Women Who Love Sex
"Private Thoughts
teaches women to listen to our deepest longings, to honor our visions,
and to recognize that our fantasies can be our guides and teachers on
the path to wholeness. Read the book and you will find new ways of becoming
a fulfilled and ecstatic lover."
--Margo
Anand,
author of The Art of Sexual Ecstacy
"Interesting, sometimes
titillating, often funny. . .genuinely revealing."
--THE
OBSERVER
(London)
". . .everyone will
benefit from the demystification of sex. [Private Thoughts] covers uncharted
waters."
--LIBRARY
JOURNAL
"Oh yes! How we need
these wonderful, lively, erotic fantasies! Private Thoughts encourages
us to know ourselves, deeply and passionately. In a world full of advertizing
and media images of sex, it's refreshing, revitalizing, and empowering
to hear real women talk about their discoveries and pleasures."
--Ellen
Bass
Coauthor of
The Courage to Heal
"Fascinating, reassuring,
empowering! Maltz and Boss lead us toward sexual self-acceptance by showing
us the infinite variety in women's sexual fantasies, as well as steps
we can take when our fantasies trouble us."
--Carol
Rinkleib Ellison, Ph.D.
Author of Women's Sexualities
"A wonderful book.
. .an exciting contribution. . .Private Thoughts provides validation for
millions of women who may worry or wonder about their sexual fantasies."
--Beverly
Whipple, Ph.D.
Coauthor of The G-Spot
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